In a Western culture that tends to be pro-extroverts, it is easy for introverts to be placed in the background, and to be labelled as less competent than their extroverted peers. However, we shouldn’t forget that a third of the world are introverts, many of which have been extremely successful and impactful to our world. Moreover, introverted characteristics are actually encouraged a lot more in some other parts of the world, which is quite the contrast to what we might be used to.
I’m not saying that one is better than the other, because I believe both are important for society to function. However, I do believe that introverts are not appreciated enough! Introverts are often put down for not being as naturally talkative, and therefore have a harder time embracing the great attributes they do possess. After reading Susan Cain’s book – Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can’t Stop Talking (highly recommend regardless of if you are more introverted or extroverted), I was really able to understand why I am the way I am, and appreciate my unique strengths without being ashamed of who I was. So now that brings me onto some common myths (and associated truths) about introverts:
Myth 1: All introverts are shy and lack confidence
Yes, some introverts are certainly shy – which can be understandable because when you’ve grown up in a society that constantly tries to make you someone else, it can be difficult to not think about yourself in a certain way. That being said, being shy does not actually make someone an introvert. You can be introverted and very confident, and you can also be shy and extroverted. Introverts simply prefer to think and listen, than to talk. Shyness is the fear of social disapproval or humiliation, whilst introversion is the preference for listening over talking. Therefore, being less talkative is a choice, rather than an action out of fear.
Myth 2: Introverts avoid socialising
When you truly enjoy your own company so much, why do you even need to see anyone else? Okay, that was a joke – well, kind of. Human connection is an essential part of a fulfilling life, but introverts really are just happy being alone, and that is okay! Introverts value the quality and depth of relationships, so small talk is often an introvert’s worst nightmare, therefore they tend to pass on large social settings. Additionally, introverts’ brains are biologically more sensitive to external stimulation, thus another reason introverts do not seek out large social gatherings, become drained by too many social interactions, and have a preference for quiet night-ins. There is also an important difference between social anxiety and introversion. People with social anxiety may avoid socialising due to fear, whereas introverts are content with their solitude, and choose it. Again, it is the choice of being alone that differentiates introversion from social anxiety.
Myth 3: Introverts cannot be great leaders
Bill Gates, Mark Zuckerberg, Elon Musk, Rosa Parks, and Albert Einstein – all extraordinary leaders in their respective fields, and what do they all have in common? Yep, you guessed it – they are all introverts. Whilst introverts might not enjoy being the centre of attention, they have a quiet power that is just as effective in its own way. Decisions are made more carefully, suggestions from others will more likely be heard and implemented, and vitally, solitude is a huge catalyst for creativity and innovation.
On a final note, I think it is important for everyone – introverts, extroverts, and everyone in between – to balance stimulating activities with times of quiet and tranquillity. Introversion and extroversion are simply preferences for different levels of external stimuli. It is okay to enjoy being alone, and it is okay to be quiet. Let’s appreciate introverts for their calm and careful presence because just like extroverts, they bring balance, diversity, and a valuable perspective to the world.
Fee Teng Liew 